Guest Post | A Letter to the Bridesmaids from Robyn Pattison

After sharing her lovely letter to the groomsmen, Robyn Pattison is back again with a guest post on another lovely letter to the bridesmaids full of tips for the girls at the wedding ceremony!

Hello Bridesmaids,

Your dresses are gorgeous. You look beautiful!  So put your heads up and smile, as you come down the aisle. We all want to see your faces…

That’s it. That’s much better. Now the photographer can see your face.

Hold your flowers low, down near your belly button. This drops your shoulders, makes your neck look longer and stop your arms from looking like chicken wings!

Now slow down, don’t rush down the aisle. We aren’t in a hurry.

No, you don’t need to do the old, one step, two feet together walk, either. It’s too awkward. Just walk, relaxed and happy and come down the aisle.

No. Really, really high heels, with really high platforms are not a good idea. You’ll wobble – and sink – and look half drunk. Don’t wear them.

Excellent. Now, take your places. First bridesmaid, you stand at the end. The next one, on her left, and so on. Now, leave a nice gap for the bride.

Ok, she’s here! Now help her fix up her dress. She looks incredible. There’s a train on that dress. No, don’t stretch it out to the side. Then you will have to stand too far away from her and that looks awful in the photos (and someone will step on it – guaranteed).

Just take the train and move it around the side, and towards the front. Think Royal Wedding photo. There…. that’s better, now you can squeeze in close to her and no-one will step on it.

Now, take the bride’s flowers before she does her vows, and shoo that fly away from her face if you can. If its windy, hold the end of her veil so it doesn’t flap around.

Don’t put tissues down the front of your dress, for just in case. Getting them out never looks very elegant! Let the groomsmen carry them in their pockets.

The ceremony is over, and the newlyweds are walking down the aisle. Pair up with the groomsmen, but wait. Let them get almost to the end of the aisle, before you start to walk down it. And smile!  It’s nearly time to celebrate.

You can have fun, now, but don’t forget your jobs aren’t quite over until the day is done. You are important. The bride loves you. You love her. It’s her big day. All you have to do today is be ready to help her.

Photos by Jack Chauvel Photography.

Help organise the groups for photos. Keep an eye on the bride’s makeup – and steal her away for a quick touch up, now and again. Be smiley. Be friendly. Stash a tissue or two for emergencies, and hang onto her lipstick. Be helpful – if guests ask you for assistance, help them.

Don’t have too much to drink – its soooo not a good look. Remember, there are cameras everywhere.

That’s not so hard, is it?

Maybe the bride is your sister, your best friend, or an old friend. In ten years time, I hope you will all remember today – and how much fun it was.


Love, Robyn

Robyn and Jack are two of our talented peachy vendors and you can contact Robyn for all your ceremony needs here at her profile and see more of Jack’s work here.